Gender Tips

What Do Single Men and Women Need to Know About Dating

For Men

Having a better understanding of those complicated but compelling females makes dating a happier, more successful experience. Here are some points covered inSo THAT’S Why They Do That! Men Women And Their Hormones that can help you know what to expect:

  • The estrogen in a female fetus grows the observational, emotional and verbal centers in her brain, so she is geared to talk about what she sees and feels.
  • If she doesn’t get the communication she needs she can feel lonely and unhappy.
  • Communication turns a woman on and bonds her to you. That means if you want her to care about you and to have sex with her, you may need to talk more.
  • If she is overwhelming you with conversation or emotional processing and it stresses you out, set another time you can resume the conversation. Don’t just blow her off. You will upset her and she will not forget.
  • Women’s powerful observational skills enable them to read your facial expression, the tone of your voice and your body language. Your date might assume that you can do the same, which leads you to think that she expects you to read her mind. Let her know you care, but encourage her to ask for what she wants.
  • Women also create testosterone, which peaks as they approach ovulation in the middle of their cycle, increasing their desire for sex.
  • Don’t take sex with your date for granted. After you make love, let her know how much you appreciate her, and tell her next day as well. If you don’t call she can cynically conclude you just want to be with her for sex.

For Women

Knowledge is power, ladies. Here are some points about men and testosterone (T) that can dispel some of your confusion and give you more understanding in handling dating issues.

  • The testosterone in a male fetus destroys cells in the observational, emotional and verbal centers of his brain. Therefore, most men aren’t built to be as emotional and verbal as you are. Talking about emotional issues can release cortisol, the stress hormone into his bloodstream, making him tense.
  • Men usually can’t read facial expression and body language the way you can, so your guy can’t tell if he’s said something wrong or offensive. You need to explain it to him, out loud, in words.
  • T engenders specific characteristics, independence and a need for space being two of them. Men tend to be comfortable being alone. Too much togetherness can leave him feeling smothered and stressed.
  • A man’s self-esteem usually comes from his status and his achievements, not his relationships.
  • Males are programmed to want sex as soon as possible. That doesn’t mean you have to give it to him right away.
  • If he just wants recreational sex he may not reveal that unless you ask him. If you want more than recreational sex you have to establish that boundary early on.
  • Males don’t usually need foreplay. You have to slow him down if he’s not giving you what you need to get aroused. Don’t be afraid to speak up. He wants to make you happy.

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There’s much, much more in So THAT’S Why They Do That! Men, Women & Their Hormones. We’ve seen how knowing how the genders work and having the tools has enabled our single clients to create better relationships and, for many, find the love they’ve been dreaming of.

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